Friday, February 8, 2008

There is no Fear in Love

1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

Really? Really God? Somtimes I just squirm when I hear this verse b/c I get so frustrated. I mean there is fear in love . . . I mean I get scared all the time in "love". I get scared when I share things and the reciever does not understand when I am saying totally and I don't feel totally accepted and loved like I (notice the word I) want.

Sometimes I get afraid because I get completely convinced that the one who seems to care the mose is the one who may indeed hurt me the most.

Then, though I have to remember that these are my fears indeed and God is calling us to so much more that it is not our love that is perfect, but it is his love that is perfect! We are already loved so perfectly loved by Him.

So knowing that he loves us perfectly . . .He does not let go of us, he listens to all of our worries, he understands us completly, he does not fail us, and on and on we have a great example what perfect love looks like.

The bottom line is that I am called to not be loved by another human perfectly, but to try to love like God perfectly . . . and not just in Love Relationships, but in all realationships.

It doesn't mean . . . don't have needs . . . give so much and act like a martry all the time and then become so run down in the midst that will not really be beneficial, but through the power of Christ and with your perfect relationship with Him . . .love differently. Putting the other person's needs above your own.

So . . . I write this today b/c this is where I am and what I am processing and more of who I want to become.

There is no Fear in Love . . .

2 comments:

Adam said...

What an appropriate Valentine's Day blog! I always enjoy reading what you're thinking dear. And this is important stuff. Thank you for sharing it!

-Adam

Anonymous said...

I like what you said, it made a lot of sense to me. You remind me exactly of my angelic best friend (with the same name astonishingly!). She is going through the same thing you blog about! Exactly! God works in mysterious ways, no doubt! Going to email her your posts so she can feel better and see she is not the only one feeling like she does. Thanks so much.